My wife was young when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. But so was I. And what I learned through this journey as a caregiver was a remarkable mixture of self-discovery and provider.
We can never forget that breast cancer is no respecter of persons. Young or old . . . cancer doesn't care.
Younger women, however, may have needs that differ from those needs of older women. For example, a caregiver may discover that younger women have to balance more demands: children, home, career. Whereas, with older women, some of these may already be off the plate.
Be aware, also, that younger women may need more reassurance, especially early on. The fears may be greater, or more pronounced.
There's also the greater possibility that men may feel that they cannot give up enough time at work to deal with the demands at home or in the doctor's office. Younger families may need to juggle more demands, and this can be difficult.
Finally, don't forget to bring out the friendships. These friends can be a great source of strength, not only for her . . . but for you. Keep yourself fit and strong. You'll need all of that strength when it comes to being there for your wife.
And don't forget to remind your wife daily that the best is yet to come. No dour thoughts. And keep a positive outlook.
~Todd Outcalt
We can never forget that breast cancer is no respecter of persons. Young or old . . . cancer doesn't care.
Younger women, however, may have needs that differ from those needs of older women. For example, a caregiver may discover that younger women have to balance more demands: children, home, career. Whereas, with older women, some of these may already be off the plate.
Be aware, also, that younger women may need more reassurance, especially early on. The fears may be greater, or more pronounced.
There's also the greater possibility that men may feel that they cannot give up enough time at work to deal with the demands at home or in the doctor's office. Younger families may need to juggle more demands, and this can be difficult.
Finally, don't forget to bring out the friendships. These friends can be a great source of strength, not only for her . . . but for you. Keep yourself fit and strong. You'll need all of that strength when it comes to being there for your wife.
And don't forget to remind your wife daily that the best is yet to come. No dour thoughts. And keep a positive outlook.
~Todd Outcalt
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